Beating the urge to give up on your New Years resolution

It happens so often that January 1st rolls around and we make all of these New Year’s resolutions and we are totally gung ho…we are going to make some serious life changes.  For the first week or 2 you are killing it…week 3 rolls around and you’re faced with an obstacle here and there but you are still full steam ahead….there is nothing that is going to stand in your way.  Week 4 a few more obstacles…you’re still determined but you can start to feel the wind in your sails depleting.  Come February you begin to justify somethings in your mind as to why this resolution just wasn’t for you.  Doubt, disappointment, and feelings of failure start to cloud your mind.  Before you know it you’ve convinced yourself that you are unable to live up to the resolutions that you made.  Is this a scenario you can identify with?

I can relate to this in so many ways.  Although I create resolutions throughout the year I run into so many obstacles that will trigger me into feelings of self doubt and making up stories in my head.  What I have learned though is that is this is when true grit must come into play.  This is where vulnerability is essential.  I want you to remember one thing…THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SELF-MADE….NO ONE CAN DO IT ALONE.  Sometimes you need a little help from you friends, mentors, leaders, and/or coaches.

When you originally made that resolution who or what were you inspired by?  Seek that person or that object out.  Recognize that the results that were created by this person, place, or thing were not created over night.  It was ups and downs, trials and errors, successes and failures that eventually led to what you were inspired by.  Keep in mind that as I am sharing this with you I am repeating this to myself as well.

Just yesterday I had reached out to my mentor and shared my feelings of being lost and struggling with how to move forward in my mission to change the world one head at a time.  It took that outside perspective to not only give me the guidance that I needed but also hold me accountable for all of my best of intentions that I wasn’t really giving my all to.  After having about a 1 hour conversation I feel like I am back on track.  Had I let my fears take the wheel and not reached out to someone who has traveled down this road before I may have given up or fallen so off course that it could have set me back years.

It is completely ridiculous to think that you can achieve the ultimate level of greatness completely by yourself.  You need guidance you, you need accountability, you need a cheerleader.  It doesn’t always mean having a live person with you at all times…it means reading a book on how to do what you want to do.  If you want to be a millionaire…you read books written by people that have made millions…If you want to have a healthy diet you read a book written by someone who eats a healthy diet…If you want to be incredibly physically fit you read a book by someone who has become incredibly physically fit.  Or you watch videos of people accomplishing these things.  Find a mentor or a leader that you can reach out to.  There other thing to remember is that finding a mentor does not always mean the CEO of the company….you work your way from the bottom.  The person that knows just one more thing than you do then work your way up.  Here is the secret though…you’ll want to sit down for this.  Are you ready???  After you read these books or learn from these mentors you actually have to act on these things…you have to do the work!

Now is the time to do it…don’t let that resolution slip away!  You can do ANYTHING AND I MEAN ANYTHING.  It’s not easy but it is worth it.  That feeling of accomplishment and growth that you will experience is one of the greatest feelings in the world.  Every step forward is a step in the right direction no matter how big or small the step!

Find your mentor, put your lessons into action, become the best possible version of yourself.  Please share this with anyone and everyone that this could potentially help in their pursuit of greatness

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11 rules to respect for yourself and your industry…no matter what it is

I came to a realization recently that in my quest to raise the respect level of the beauty industry that this is something that can be used across the board…no matter your industry.  If you are in an industry that you feel does not get the respect is deserves it is up to you to take responsibility for it.  If you find yourself saying “I hold myself to a high standard it’s everyone else that is the problem” you have to take responsibility for that too!  If you are an industry leader it is your responsibility to lead those down the path of mastering that same leadership.  The only way we can do this is to do it together.  Here is the thing though… it’s ALL ABOUT YOUR ATTITUDE!

1. Assume the best out of everyone.  If others in your industry are not holding themselves to a higher standard therefore not earning respect assume that is because they don’t know how or know that it is even an option. Not that they just don’t want to or don’t care enough.  So many people never had that person in their life telling them how smart and powerful they are.  BE THAT PERSON!!!

2. Be thankful for as much or as little as you have.  No matter what you have its is something you have to be thankful for.  My boyfriend shared with me that after working an 18 hour day only to get up 5 hours later to do it all over again he saw a man pushing a cart full of metal that he had collected from the streets.   What an eye-opener.  The thing is if I had the opportunity to speak to that man pushing the cart he too would have something to be thankful for.  When you count your blessings it gives you a feeling of power and strength that can be used to pass onto others.

3. Make eye contact with EVERYONE!  The cashiers, your server, your barista, any human being that you have contact with…look them in the eyes!

4. Smile!  Smile at everyone!!!  A smile has an energy that is contagious.

5. Shake hands….everyone that you greet…shake their hand.  Learn how to give a proper handshake…no limp wrist or dead fish handshakes…those are disgusting and will only cost you respect not earn it.

6. Stand up straight…head up, shoulders back, chest out!  I can see your confidence level in your posture…if your not feeling confident fake it with perfect posture and eventually you become confident!

7. Use powerful words…words that perk people’s ears.  Delivery those words in a way that create intrigue.

8. Take care of your hygiene!  Respect is lost when you are the stinky kid…deodorant, breath mints…if you’re a smoker find a way to get rid of that smell….use perfume/cologne but use it sparingly!

9. ONLY wear clothes that you KNOW you look fucking awesome in!!  If you put something on and you look in the mirror and think “meh”….donate it!  GET IT OUT OF YOUR CLOSET IMMEDIATELY!  Only wear pieces you feel killer in!!!

10. BE EARLY!  I’d rather be 3 hours early than 1 minute late!!!

11. Choose to have a killer attitude…at the end of the day EVERYTHING is a choice!

If you follow these rules of thumb, teach them to the people in your industry, hold yourself and them accountable….you become a force to be reckoned with and so will your industry!