A story that proves happiness is a choice

I just finished reading (actually listening to…that’s how I read) “The Power of Intention” by Wayne Dyer.  Fabulous book…especially on Audible because it’s actually a recording of the course he teaches based on the book rather than just listening to him or someone else simply reading the words.

The book ends with him reading a story that was sent to him.

” a 92-year-old petite, proud, well poised woman who is fully dressed, hair fashionably quaffed, and makeup perfectly applied by 8 a.m. every morning despite being legally blind is about to move into a nursing home because her husband of 70 years passed away making the move necessary.  After sitting patiently in the waiting room of this nursing home for several hours she smiled sweetly when she was told her room was ready.  While maneuvering her walker to the elevator, the nurse who was escorting her provided a visual description of her tiny room down to the eyelet sheets that hung on her window.  “I LOVE IT”  the 92 year old woman said with the enthusiasm of an 8-year-old child who just received her first puppy.  “But Mrs. Jones, You haven’t even seen it yet,” the nurse said, “just wait, just wait”.  “That has nothing to do with it” said Mrs. Jones.  “Happiness is something you decide on ahead of time. Whether I like my room or not doesn’t depend on how the furniture is arranged…it’s how I arrange my mind”.  Wayne Dyer finishes with this…”You see, even at 92 years old and legally blind WHEN YOU CHANGE THE WAY YOU LOOK AT THINGS THE THINGS YOU LOOK AT CHANGE 

I really do think this comes from having a gratitude mindset.  If you are reading this right now YOU HAVE SO MANY THINGS TO BE THANKFUL FOR. That you are able to see to read these things, that you have the ability to read, that you woke up this morning to have the opportunity to read, that you own a device in which to access this, that you are able to afford the internet access it takes to be able to see this.  The list goes on…

You have so much more power than you think you do.  Once you start to recognize that you begin a path of enlightenment.  You begin to empower the people around you.  You begin to make others’ realize how powerful they are…it trickles.

Enlightenment comes from learning from others’.  There is something to be learned from everyone, from everything, in every moment.

My next book I am starting is “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale…I look forward to sharing my insight with you when I’m done!

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Intentionally Lola, Dopamine Dealer. Here’s my card

Hey kids, I’ve got something for you. You are going to love the way it makes you feel. I’m going to give you just a little taste of it now. Go tell all your friends about it and then come back and see me when you’re ready for more.

What is it that you’re getting a taste of you ask? It’s called dopamine and I’ve got the good stuff! I’ve been getting my supply from people around the world but I just got my biggest and best supply to date and I am willing to share it with you. There’s a catch though. You have to take it and share it with your friends.

Here ya go, open your mind wide and say ahhhhhhh. Here’s a taste.

You know that thing that you’ve been wanting to do? You hear that voice in your head that keeps nagging you about what you really WANT to do in your life? Well, today is the day. Today is the day that you start making that shit happen and stop waiting for the right time. That “right time” is never going to come.

Today is the day that you start seeking out the other people in the world that have done what you are wanting to do. They are out there but here’s the thing…you have to find them. Find them, talk to them, ask them questions, and then implement their suggestions. Then go back and ask them more questions….not until you have used all the information they gave you last time though. Nothing is going to annoy a great mentor more than a person asking for help and then them not taking action on it.

Find out what books they’re reading. Find out what podcasts and TED-talks they are listening to….then you read those books….you listen to those podcasts and TED-talks. Then start doing the things they are doing. Here’s the thing…because you have a different personality, different look, different style…you could try to do things exactly like that other person but it will be a little different because it will be coming from you. You are going to put your own unique spin on it and maybe even make it better than the original.

Surround yourself with the people you want to be like….that’s how you make shit happen. BAM! I know you’re gonna run out of that little supply I gave you but you know where to find me….I’ll be here and I can give you even more next time. You just let me know how much you’ll need and I will make sure you get plenty. Make sure you share it with your friends too though. They will love it just as much as you do!!!

Why empathy is crucial to intentional living

When I made the decision to live an intentional life I was met by much resistance from many of the people closest to me.  I realized because I made the decision to move forward and it did not benefit them I appeared to be selfish as I was “leaving them behind”.  I was called cold and heartless by the people I loved most and the people I thought loved me the most.  It was a very painful time for me but I had to keep moving forward.  I knew that the last thing I could be described as is a heartless person therefore this had nothing to do with me so much as it did with them.

It was around that same time that I had heard something that changed the way I connected with people from that day forward.  “Everyone thinks they are the good guy”.  So simple but so profound.  In every situation no matter the person, the circumstance, or the subject….every person involved believes that what they are doing the right thing.  From that moment forward I always put myself in that persons shoes.  This helped me identify and connect with people on a deeper plain.

Empathy, the act of understanding and knowing how another person feels has helped me in moving forward easier.  When I look back at that time in my life I can now fully understand why they gave me so much resistance.  Their life was changing without their permission.  They were scared.  It was fear of the unknown that caused them to react the way they did.  There is nothing I could do about that however just knowing why has really helped me.

I share this with you in hopes that it will help you understand why people do the things they do.  It is important that you do not change your course as a result of their actions rather make your course smoother as you will have a greater understanding as to why they feel the way they do.

Next time you find yourself putting a label on someone…”oh, she’s crazy…or he’s an asshole”…whatever it is…take a moment and try to see things from their perspective. Very often it is either a person’s fear or fearlessness that we are labeling…not the person themselves.  It is their behavior that we are seeing which is as result of something bigger. It has nothing to do with who that person is at their innermost core rather what obstacles they are currently facing…that is what we are seeing and labeling.

I invite you to use an empathetic approach today.  You will find that you stay much calmer when you are faced with obstacles.  Please share those stories with me!