Beating the urge to give up on your New Years resolution

It happens so often that January 1st rolls around and we make all of these New Year’s resolutions and we are totally gung ho…we are going to make some serious life changes.  For the first week or 2 you are killing it…week 3 rolls around and you’re faced with an obstacle here and there but you are still full steam ahead….there is nothing that is going to stand in your way.  Week 4 a few more obstacles…you’re still determined but you can start to feel the wind in your sails depleting.  Come February you begin to justify somethings in your mind as to why this resolution just wasn’t for you.  Doubt, disappointment, and feelings of failure start to cloud your mind.  Before you know it you’ve convinced yourself that you are unable to live up to the resolutions that you made.  Is this a scenario you can identify with?

I can relate to this in so many ways.  Although I create resolutions throughout the year I run into so many obstacles that will trigger me into feelings of self doubt and making up stories in my head.  What I have learned though is that is this is when true grit must come into play.  This is where vulnerability is essential.  I want you to remember one thing…THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS SELF-MADE….NO ONE CAN DO IT ALONE.  Sometimes you need a little help from you friends, mentors, leaders, and/or coaches.

When you originally made that resolution who or what were you inspired by?  Seek that person or that object out.  Recognize that the results that were created by this person, place, or thing were not created over night.  It was ups and downs, trials and errors, successes and failures that eventually led to what you were inspired by.  Keep in mind that as I am sharing this with you I am repeating this to myself as well.

Just yesterday I had reached out to my mentor and shared my feelings of being lost and struggling with how to move forward in my mission to change the world one head at a time.  It took that outside perspective to not only give me the guidance that I needed but also hold me accountable for all of my best of intentions that I wasn’t really giving my all to.  After having about a 1 hour conversation I feel like I am back on track.  Had I let my fears take the wheel and not reached out to someone who has traveled down this road before I may have given up or fallen so off course that it could have set me back years.

It is completely ridiculous to think that you can achieve the ultimate level of greatness completely by yourself.  You need guidance you, you need accountability, you need a cheerleader.  It doesn’t always mean having a live person with you at all times…it means reading a book on how to do what you want to do.  If you want to be a millionaire…you read books written by people that have made millions…If you want to have a healthy diet you read a book written by someone who eats a healthy diet…If you want to be incredibly physically fit you read a book by someone who has become incredibly physically fit.  Or you watch videos of people accomplishing these things.  Find a mentor or a leader that you can reach out to.  There other thing to remember is that finding a mentor does not always mean the CEO of the company….you work your way from the bottom.  The person that knows just one more thing than you do then work your way up.  Here is the secret though…you’ll want to sit down for this.  Are you ready???  After you read these books or learn from these mentors you actually have to act on these things…you have to do the work!

Now is the time to do it…don’t let that resolution slip away!  You can do ANYTHING AND I MEAN ANYTHING.  It’s not easy but it is worth it.  That feeling of accomplishment and growth that you will experience is one of the greatest feelings in the world.  Every step forward is a step in the right direction no matter how big or small the step!

Find your mentor, put your lessons into action, become the best possible version of yourself.  Please share this with anyone and everyone that this could potentially help in their pursuit of greatness

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What happens when you define your mission

My favorite artist/singer/poet/activist/ultra-feminist, Ani Difranco, has a song titled “Out of Habit” that contains the lyrics “Art is why I get up in the morning  But my definition ends there And it doesn’t seem fair That I’m living for something I can’t even define”.  Even though I’ve been singing that song at the top of my longs for nearly 20 years now….those words have really began to resonate with me.  Until recently I knew what I wanted my life to look like but I couldn’t define it.  It wasn’t until meeting a few truly inspiring people who I am finally able to define my purpose in life.  “To change the way hairdressers and the beauty industry is viewed.”  By demanding the respect the industry so greatly deserves.  Empowering them to hold themselves to a standard so high they cannot be ignored.  To let them know that no matter who is sitting at the table there is a seat for them…ceo’s, cfo’s, state officials, doctors, lawyers, professors….pull up a chair people!”  What I have found is so many people go through life not knowing how damn smart and powerful they really are.  So many people don’t have that person in their life telling them they can do anything,  supporting them and to help push them to the top.  If that person does not exist in their life..I will be that person.

I share this with EVERYONE because this applies to human beings in general.  This is a concept that can be utilized with anyone…whether you want to change the way you as a person are viewed or the industry you have dedicated yourself to.  This certainly does not just apply to hairdressers.

I will be preaching the good word about how strategically branding yourself will earn you the respect you so greatly deserve. I was lucky enough to be taught the importance of this by Bennie Pollard and Paula Hensen of Cool Beauty Consulting.  It is now my responsibility to share this with the future hairdressers of the world.

Smiling, making eye contact, shaking hands, having a killer wardrobe, great personal hygiene, using great dialogue and delivery, great posture, being punctual, and having an exceptional attitude.  Sharing the importance of these 9 things to the future hairdressers of the world.  But this goes FAR BEYOND hairdressing.  This is just human beings holding themselves to a higher standard in general.  This is something we should be teaching our children and something that we as adults should be doing every day!

At Lola we call this “The Art of Mastering Badassery”.  Now that I can define my mission….now that I have an actual strategy of spreading this mission…I AM UNSTOPPABLE!!!!   As long as my heart is beating I know that my assignment is not complete!!!  I invite you to join me in being a badass and teaching those around us how to be badasses….ANYONE can Master the Art of Badassery!!!  Let’s do this shit!!!!!