10 lessons I’ve learned from my nail tech. 1 for each finger

I spent another amazing 2 hours with the incredible Lisa Clark today at Lacquered Up Nail Studio (click here to visit their facebook page).  I want to say that something amazing happens when you are intentional about who you choose to work with, get services with, shop with, and surround yourself with.  When choosing my new nail design artist I knew that I wanted to support someone local.  I first heard of Lisa through my sister, who shares my same philosophies about making intentional choices on who you work with.  It took me a while to finally carve time into my schedule to get my nails done regularly.  I had no idea how much my life was going to change as a result of that.  Lisa Clark, nail design artist…AKA…mind blower upper, is the kind of person you must meet and I have 10 reason why….1 for each finger.  Lisa, for the sake of this blog, is going to be the name we use to represent the person in your circle that you can learn from and grow with.

  1. Lisa creates a safe haven for man, woman, and child

The love that Lisa shows to everyone is truly incredible but the most beautiful part is the safe place she creates for the people who struggle with vulnerability the most…..Men and teens.  Unfortunately society has made men feel that sharing their feelings is a sign of weakness.  Brene Brown talks about a man that she met who had told her that the women is his life would rather see him die on his white horse than see him fall and fail.  You show me woman who gives her man a safe place to share his feelings without judgement and I’ll show you a woman who will be taken care of in ways you didn’t know possible.  Same goes for the teens in the world.  Being a teen is the hardest thing in the world.  They are trying so hard to just fit in and be “normal”.  They are trying desperately to fit into the mold that their peers have labeled as acceptable.  Their brains are not fully developed however they appear to be fully functional fully developed human beings.  It’s  a mirage really, an illusion.  Inside they are confused, scared, and un-equipped for the expectations that are bestowed upon them.

2. Lisa loves with her whole being

The love that Lisa shares with the people in her life is insurmountable.  She accepts the best parts of you and the worst parts of you equally.  She recognizes the good, bad, or ugly that is who you are and she loves you for it.  That is a lesson we could all stand to learn.  No one is perfect.  We all make choices from time to time that do not shine a great light on us however it does form and shape us into the person we become.  Lisa will accept every aspect of you but will tell you when you are not being your best self.  Not only will she tell you…she will guide you through the darkness into the light that most flatters you!

3.  Lisa researches her emotions

When Lisa is experiencing a dark emotion she truly dissects it until she figures out where it originates.  When she is angry she truly thinks about where that anger comes from and deals with the source.  She not only admits when she is wrong but she makes it right.  And then she takes the steps necessary to grow in a way that she doesn’t make the same mistake twice.

4.  Lisa recognizes what makes her happy

Lisa is present and recognizes when she is truly experiencing happiness.  No matter what it is.  She finds joy in the little things and is intentional about experiencing that joy.  She finds just as much joy in cooking burgers and drinking beer with her husband as she does getting all gussied up and having a killer night on the town.

5.  Lisa learns from every single person she meets

Every single person that Lisa crosses paths with serves a purpose in her life.  Sometimes the person serves as a someone she strives to be for her own personal growth.  Sometimes that person serves as a student who learns from her own life experiences.  Sometimes that person serves as a bad example…the person she knows she doesn’t want to be.

6.  Lisa asks excellent questions

Good questions get good answers….great questions get great answers…Lisa recognizes this.  Not only does she know that she is going to grow as a result of your answer but she also is genuinely interested in what you have to say.

7.  Lisa lets you know how wonderful you are

For some people telling others how wonderful they think the people around them can be uncomfortable….not for Lisa.  Her words feel like warm hugs wrapped around your whole body.  If you ever need to feel like you are important and that you make a difference in this world…hang out with Lisa

8.  Lisa respects your purpose

No matter what greatness you are trying to pursue Lisa will be your biggest cheerleader. The sole fact that you have a passion to pursue is enough reason for Lisa to encourage you to keep going.

9.  Lisa is not afraid to push you into greatness

Choosing to be your very best self every single day takes a great deal of energy.  It’s hard work but it is worth it.  When the pain and fatigue start to weigh on you Lisa is right there to support you through your time of need.  Most of the time it’s simply words of encouragement that are needed to push you through however Lisa is not afraid to break out the tough love if she sees that’s what you need.

10.  Lisa is Lisa

No matter where you are, who are with, or what you are doing you will always get the same Lisa.  Her true, genuine, beautiful, empathetic, loving, caring self.

 

You never know when you are going to meet your Lisa.  They come in all shapes, sizes, creeds, religions, backgrounds, and occupations.  The key to finding your Lisa is to engage with the people you come accross…your server, your clerk, your mailman, your hairdresser, and most certianly your nail design artist.

 

 

11 rules to respect for yourself and your industry…no matter what it is

I came to a realization recently that in my quest to raise the respect level of the beauty industry that this is something that can be used across the board…no matter your industry.  If you are in an industry that you feel does not get the respect is deserves it is up to you to take responsibility for it.  If you find yourself saying “I hold myself to a high standard it’s everyone else that is the problem” you have to take responsibility for that too!  If you are an industry leader it is your responsibility to lead those down the path of mastering that same leadership.  The only way we can do this is to do it together.  Here is the thing though… it’s ALL ABOUT YOUR ATTITUDE!

1. Assume the best out of everyone.  If others in your industry are not holding themselves to a higher standard therefore not earning respect assume that is because they don’t know how or know that it is even an option. Not that they just don’t want to or don’t care enough.  So many people never had that person in their life telling them how smart and powerful they are.  BE THAT PERSON!!!

2. Be thankful for as much or as little as you have.  No matter what you have its is something you have to be thankful for.  My boyfriend shared with me that after working an 18 hour day only to get up 5 hours later to do it all over again he saw a man pushing a cart full of metal that he had collected from the streets.   What an eye-opener.  The thing is if I had the opportunity to speak to that man pushing the cart he too would have something to be thankful for.  When you count your blessings it gives you a feeling of power and strength that can be used to pass onto others.

3. Make eye contact with EVERYONE!  The cashiers, your server, your barista, any human being that you have contact with…look them in the eyes!

4. Smile!  Smile at everyone!!!  A smile has an energy that is contagious.

5. Shake hands….everyone that you greet…shake their hand.  Learn how to give a proper handshake…no limp wrist or dead fish handshakes…those are disgusting and will only cost you respect not earn it.

6. Stand up straight…head up, shoulders back, chest out!  I can see your confidence level in your posture…if your not feeling confident fake it with perfect posture and eventually you become confident!

7. Use powerful words…words that perk people’s ears.  Delivery those words in a way that create intrigue.

8. Take care of your hygiene!  Respect is lost when you are the stinky kid…deodorant, breath mints…if you’re a smoker find a way to get rid of that smell….use perfume/cologne but use it sparingly!

9. ONLY wear clothes that you KNOW you look fucking awesome in!!  If you put something on and you look in the mirror and think “meh”….donate it!  GET IT OUT OF YOUR CLOSET IMMEDIATELY!  Only wear pieces you feel killer in!!!

10. BE EARLY!  I’d rather be 3 hours early than 1 minute late!!!

11. Choose to have a killer attitude…at the end of the day EVERYTHING is a choice!

If you follow these rules of thumb, teach them to the people in your industry, hold yourself and them accountable….you become a force to be reckoned with and so will your industry!