Secure your mask first

I am FINALLY reading “Girl, Wash your face” by Rachel Hollis.  I have had this book in my Audible cue for quite some time now but kept on opting for something else.  My mind  must have known that I was just not ready to absorb all of this information yet.  I am really enjoying this book.  It is so relatable.

While listening to Rachel talk about self-care in one of her chapters it really made me think about the true importance of this.  We, particularly women, have a very bad habit of putting everyone else’s needs above ours.  I am sure that I speak for many women when I say I do this willingly.  I enjoy taking care of my boyfriend, my grandson, my children, and those close to me.  I think it is just the motherly instinct that most women have.  That being said I also know that for me to be at my best for them I have to be #1!

After nearly 42 years in this world I have finally realized my mission.  I am here to support people through their path of becoming total and complete badasses.  I am here to show them the greatness they hold but just can’t see for themselves yet.  I am here to shift the perspective of how people view themselves and the people around them.  For me to be able to do that I have no choice but to be a total and complete badass myself.  I have to care for the vessel that carries the incredibly fragile packaging that is my mind and my soul.   I have to make space and time for reflection and rest.  I have to make time to create and absorb.  I have to be very intentional about what I feed my mind, body, and soul.

This is so much easier said than done.  Let’s be honest an entire bag of Cheddar and Sour Cream Ruffles (my kryptonite btw) sounds SO much better than leafy greens.  An ice-cold beer trumps an ice-cold water after a hard day of work and I’d like to take a sleeve of milk soaked Oreos over an ounce of almonds any day of the week.  BUT… If I don’t care for the beautiful carrying case that is my body all of its contents such as my mind, soul, and spirit risk being destroyed.  And given that I have such a lofty responsibility to carry out my mission I have no choice but to protect those contents and it’s packaging.

The same goes for you.  If you have not recognized your mission yet I assure you it’s exposing itself bit by bit.  It is so important that when all of the clues that the universe presents to you are put together to reveal your mission that your mind and body are ready to pounce.

When you think of terms of being your best for others it makes it easier to wake up early, exercise, eat healthy, and get rest.  When you realize that it is not selfish in-fact it’s the exact opposite…self care is the greatest gift you could give your spouse, your children, you co-workers, and the universe!

Airlines across the entire world have had this figured out for decades.  Think about the safety demonstration that the flight attendant gives before each and every flight.

“Oxygen and the air pressure are always being monitored. In the event of a decompression, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you. To start the flow of oxygen, pull the mask towards you. Place it firmly over your nose and mouth, secure the elastic band behind your head, and breathe normally. Although the bag does not inflate, oxygen is flowing to the mask. If you are traveling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask on first, and then assist the other person.” 

If you truly want to make your partner happy, raise incredible human beings, and make the world a better place Secure your mask first!!!

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