This is how I stay positive

I am often asked how I maintain such a positive attitude and such a great perspective on even the most difficult of situations.  The truth is I am very intentional about what I fill my brain with.  I read books, blogs, articles, and posts on positivity covering a spectrum of different perspectives.  I soak them in with an open mind and an open heart.

I wanted to share with you an example of what I read regularly.  This is a blog by Tom Bilyeu…founder of Quest health bars and Impact Theory.  Enjoy these wise words.

Remember to read and digest this with an open mind and a positive attitude!!!

Enjoy,

    Intentionally Lola

People ask me how to deal with their significant life challenges all the time. From financial hardship to disabilities and personal losses, I acknowledge how real those challenges are.

But here is my hard answer to ANY circumstance holding you back.

Look for advantages. If there isn’t one, quite frankly, make one up. Take everything as your fault. Discussing how the circumstances are holding you back is totally useless.

Do you know why the vast majority of people don’t understand how insidious excuses are? Because, in reality, they are…

SO. VALID.

For example, having a disability? Yes, it’s real; things will be harder for you. Now you can either A) accept that thought OR B) choose to say: “I’m going to work HARDER”. And the truth is, people who choose B are the ones that go on to do big things. Still whining about it and being sad about it? Trust me, I get it. In fact, no one is going to fault you and say that you’re a bad person for doing it.

BUT…

Burn one thing into your nervous system: you will NOT achieve what you want to achieve if you spend any time wallowing in self-pity — only because that does NOT serve you.

Stephen Hawking once said: “when you complain, no one wants to help you.” Wow. That man could move nothing but one muscle on his cheek never complained and yet had some of the biggest breakthroughs in physics’ history.

He even added: “it’s because I have lost the ability to use my body that I’ve been able to achieve those breakthroughs”. Let that sink in. Not only did he not complain, but also found a way to completely reframe it as one of the most powerful things that has ever happened to him. So I invite you, my friends, to do the same with whatever challenge you’re facing.

To help you reframe, here are the three most important questions you should ask yourself:

  1. Do you live in a friendly or in a hostile world? Einstein once said that was the most important decision someone will ever make. He said ‘decision’ because there’s no objective truth here: either the world is working for you or against you. You get to choose. Your reticular activation system will make sure that you get what you focus on.

  2. Is everything a miracle or is nothing a miracle? Again, no objective truth in this other courtesy from Einstein. You get to choose. You get to decide whether ANYTHING — breathing, walking, turning your lights on, feeling the breeze — is unimaginably cool or not. Those everyday decisions have a profound impact on your brain, quite literally. When you force yourself to focus on the joyful things, those brain circuits get myelinated (i.e., fatty tissues wrap around your neurons to allow impulses to travel faster) and it literally becomes easier for you to think that way.

  3. Are you capable of anything you set your mind to or are there limits to what you can comprehend?  I’ll keep this one short by saying that your response to this question will define the boundaries of your dreams, which, in turn, will determine a large part of the quality of your life.

That’s it for now. Two takeaways for you:

  1. Circumstances won’t hold you back, but wasting time on excuses will so choose to reframe;

  2. Reframe making sure that your answer to the 3 questions above will help you move towards, not against, your goals. It’s all choice, so choose wisely.

Until next time, my friends, be legendary.

– Tom