I recently heard someone ask “would you say the things you say to yourself to someone else”? Honestly, most likely not. When you think about the terrible self-talk the we exhibit it’s a wonder how we are not in a corner somewhere curled up in a fetal position, crying, and screaming for our Mother’s.
Inner dialogue is something that I can honestly say I struggle with myself. I actually have to work at having a positive conversation in my head daily. I have to giggle though because I find as I feed myself these daily affirmations I am reminded of the 80’s SNL skit with “Stuart Smalley”. He would end each skit by looking at himself in the mirror and saying “I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and gosh darn it people like me.
I have to say though that the funniest comedy imitates life! We laugh hysterically because we can identify with it on some sort of plane. Even if it’s for the slightest little micro-moment of time we all need to remind ourselves that we are good enough, we are smart enough, and gosh darn it people like us.
So, here is what I want you to do! Grab a piece of paper and write down 20 things you love about yourself. Maybe it’s your beautiful eyes, your awesome hair, your fashion sense, your ability to empathize, your knack for home decor, your patience, your laugh, your handwriting. Whatever it is…write it down…don’t stop until you have 20…maybe it will take you more than one sitting…that’s ok. Just don’t quit until you have at least 20. Now keep that list close. Read it everyday. Remind yourself how fucking awesome you are…because I know you ARE fucking awesome!!!
Next time you find your self-talk to be negative ask yourself “what would my Mother do if she heard me talking to someone like this”? Then take out that list and put those nasty thoughts to rest.
Please do me the honor of sharing this with everyone you know. Help me spread Intentionally Lola like wildflowers!!!