I have had so many people tell me recently about the level of funk they are living in right now. I don’t mean the music genre in which you just can’t help but dance to (cue Funk #49 by the James Gang…my jam)…I mean a deep, dark, depressive state that has robbed them of motivation, inspiration, and self compassion. This is definitely something that I can relate to. I know for certain that the season most certainly is a contributing factor but I really think there is more to it. I can remember last winter being in one of the darkest eras of my life. I was so depressed and sad all the time. I had made a vow to myself to make a point of doing everything I could not to fall down that rabbit hole again. I can say without a shadow of doubt that I am in a MUCH MUCH better place than I was last year thanks to self-awareness, self compassion, and self-care! However…as hard as I have tried there is still something dragging me down.
I made it a point to do some journaling….VERY intentional journaling cause, ya know, intentionally lola…it’s what I do 🙂 What I mean by intentional is that although I am a firm believer in writing down exactly what you are thinking and feeling in the moment…ZERO SELF EDITING… And just putting it all out there…it’s such a great release…. I needed something more definitive than that. I wrote down the things that were really eating away at me, aka the problem, and then I wrote down the advice I would give to someone else if they came to me with that problem, aka the solution. One thing I know about myself is that, thanks to my spirit guides and intuition, I am great at guiding people through their darkest moments…because I passionately believe in the power of the human spirit…but here is the kicker…I’m not nearly as good at doing that for myself. I wrestle with the “you’re not good enough’s” and the “who do you think you are’s” quite frequently. I believe in everyone else 100%… but myself…not quite as much…funny. Now this is something I work on every moment of everyday and I get better every second! I would actually like for you to sit on that for just a minute because what I am saying is that I am changing daily…my self belief has grown exponentially in the past 4 years….which means it is a learned behavior…not something you are born with!!! CAN WE PLEASE REPEAT THAT….SLOWLY…It is a (dramatic pause) learned behavior!
So here is what my intuition and spirit guide are telling me. There needs to be a major shift in perspective. Instead of focusing on the things that you are failing at…focus on all the growth you have had. Focus on all those successes. Draw energy from those things that you do so well, forgive yourself for all the things that you are doing not so well, and believe in yourself strongly enough to know that you will get there…slowly but surely…you will get there! Those words are for me and for any other person out there reading this that is struggling alongside me!
Since I had 2 things that I was really struggling with…here is the other message from my intuition and spirit guide. That feeling you have right now coming from something you regret…remember that feeling. Keep that feeling only as a reminder of when that thing that gave it to you shows up again that you choose differently….let me rewind for a second….keep it as a reminder….not a tool to keep torturing yourself…you made a bad choice…forgive yourself. Now file that problem away and reflect it on in the future when you are faced with a similar challenge. It will serve a purpose to direct you to respond in a way that you are proud of.
My intention behind Intentionally Lola is to help people get through limiting beliefs by letting them know that they are not alone. By shifting their perspectives. I think the most powerful words in the world are “me too”…. Knowing you are not alone in these struggles. Life is too short to live small! We can be the support each other through our daily struggles.
What advice would you give to the person that is experiencing your current struggle?